Many years ago I had to write a list of things I was looking for in a partner as part of a school assignment. I was studying natural and alternative health at the time. This particular assignment was for a class on manifesting and the law of attraction. The idea is to cultivate what you want rather than what you don’t want. I’ve looked back at my list over the years and nothing has really changed. Bear in mind that I wrote this list before I learned about BDSM and dominance and submission. I remember showing it to a friend and her first reaction was that there’s an awful lot of sex on this list. LOL… Looking at it now it really doesn’t seem like a lot, although a few of the items make more sense to me now.

Here, in no particular order, is my list:

1. he is a truck man

2. he has strong but gentle hands

3. he loves me

4. he is the man, the dominant one

5. he gives the best hugs

6. he enjoys an active sex life with me

7. he wants to grow old with me

8. he protects me

9. he has faith, not religion, but faith

10. he is a loving person

11. he supports me

12. he believes in me

13. he is smart, educated possibly

14. he enjoys cooking, not just on the barbeque

15. he can disagree with me without it being an issue

16. family is important to him

17. he has a contagious laugh

18. he always kisses me like he means it

19. he smiles when he thinks of me, and I when I think of him

20. he likes to travel and see new places

21. he has his own interests

22. he is a big man, maybe not in stature, but in presence

23. he is at home near the water

24. he is honest and truthful with me

25. he has a strong sense of self

26. he can change a flat tire

27. he is a dog man

28. he is older than me

29. he likes to be silly, have fun and laugh

30. his voice captivates me

31. he believes in non-monogamy, but not necessarily practice it

32. he will share outside experiences with me

33. he enjoys the kinkier side of sex

34. he enjoys watching me

35. he is thoughtful, considerate

36. he likes to play games

37. he drinks whiskey

38. he is patient and understanding

39. he smells good

40. he is creative, artistic to some degree

41. he likes camping

42. he rubs my feet

43. sex, did I mention sex?