AtoZ 2016: Dominant

Daring, dazed, dazzled, deceitful, defeated,
defensive, defiant, dejected, delighted, demanding,
dependable, dependent, depleted, depressed, desirous,
desolate, despair, despondent, destructive,
detached, determined, devastated, devious,
different, dignified, diminished, disappointed,
discombobulated, disconcerted, disconnected, discontent,
discouraged, discreet, disgusted, disgruntled,
  disheartened, disillusioned, dismayed, disorderly,
displeased, dissatisfied, distracted, distraught,
distressed, distrustful, disturbed, divided, DOMINANT,
dominated, dread, dreamy, dubious, dull, dumb


It’s easy to write about depression, feeling depressed, but I’ve done that before so I am not going to do it again now. There are all kinds of feelings along the way from A to Z. If you want to read what I had to say about it you can go here or here, or to a repost from Petite Magique here.

Dominant can mean so many things. I my world of BDSM it is the big D to my little s, the yin to my yang, my safe haven. To be the big D you need to do more than just feel dominant though, it has to be an integral part of your character. It is not an integral part of my character, not on a personal relationship or sexual level at least.

You can feel dominant, be dominant, without the BDSM aspect of course. There are those who are dominant in all aspects of their life and those, like me, who are dominant in only certain areas. You can be the top dog at the office, put fear in anyone who dares cross you, and be the subservient one at home. Or you could be the Yes Girl at the office and the leader at home. Doesn’t matter if you are male or female, straight or gay, vanilla or kinky. We all have different roles we fill in our lives.

I am dominant in some situations but overall I do not feel dominant whatsoever. I take charge at work, but that is my job and they demand it of me. There is a reason I have few work friends. I am a different person at the office than I am at home in many ways. I am still me, just a different version of me. When it comes to work I have no problem telling someone what to do, telling them if I’m not pleased with their work, and even firing them. I have no problem saying no to my boss or refusing to do something I believe is unethical, I’ve done it several times. I am in control and run my department competently. I’m no strong arm, I am still my happy and bubbly self, but I am much more dominant than I am in my personal life. Work is the only place I ever have an inkling of feeling dominant and the only place I’d ever want to be.


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2 thoughts on “AtoZ 2016: Dominant

  1. Like you, work is the only place where I feel dominant and can ‘boss around’. At home I prefer not to do it, even though I am strict with my kids. But other than that, I prefer to hand over the control to Master T.

    Rebel xox

  2. I love discovering new blogs during A to Z especially when they can help me learn more about something I am so curious about. Thank you. Good luck with the rest of the Challenge.

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