Nudity? Let’s Talk Naked.

“I want you to dance naked… I want to enjoy your body; I want to hear all your secrets” ~ John Mellencamp


Let’s just start this with the obvious shall we. The no clothes on kind of naked. I mean really, it is the first thing people think of when they hear the word naked, or nudity. They visualize a woman, or man, bare assed with all their lovely bits showing. A fantasy for most, too much for some. We often regard the female form as a thing of beauty and the male form as too much to be shown. Double standard? Indeed. Let’s all get nekkid and revel in it!

I have no problem being this kind of naked. Having a man see me nude regardless of how long I’ve known him, or in whatever context it is he is seeing me, is not a big deal these days. Well, it is a big deal that I would want him to see me sans clothes, but it’s not the I’m ashamed of my body so let’s keep it covered drama it used to be when I was younger. The thing is, I am comfortable with my body now in a way I never was at 20 years old, in a way I could never have been at that age with all my insecurities. My body isn’t perfect. I’ve stretched it and scarred it in too many a place to mention. One major operation left a very large scar down across my chest. I used to hide it, now I show it off, even point it out at times. These are the results of living a life. Being perfect is no longer what matters. Being comfortable and confident is.

Imagine what this world would be like if we all had the confidence and self assuredness we have now back when we were young, nubile, and hard bodied…

What I do have a problem with is being naked emotionally, baring my soul, my secrets. This is the hardest kind of naked to be. To leave one’s self so totally open and vulnerable to another. People spend thousands and thousands of dollars to be able to do this. I’ve spent a fair sum and I still can’t. I try, and there are things that come out, but the essence of me still remains cloaked, hidden away from the world.

Why do we find it so hard to expose our true selves? Why is it so difficult to be honest and open and lay it all out there? Because people judge. And they judge more on the baggage we carry with us on the inside than they do the baggage we carry around on our ass.

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10 thoughts on “Nudity? Let’s Talk Naked.

  1. That last line spoke volumes. I will admit that was my first twist on this prompt, baring our souls as opposed to our bodies. Great minds think alike.

  2. My sentiments exactly….

  3. Ah, baggage and judgement. Yes. *sigh*

  4. “These are the results of living a life. Being perfect is no longer what matters. Being comfortable and confident is.”

    I like this; I am never as comfortable clothed as I am when I get to wander around naked. It feels so much more, natural!

  5. Indeed, people judge. But sometimes people also use things against you. Which in my eyes is disrespectful.
    This happened to me and it made me careful to bare myself emotionally. I totally get why it is so difficult to expose yourself. I have learned the hard way to be careful with that.

    Great post.

    Rebel xox

  6. Love this

  7. Beautiful put… I too have my scars both from surgery and from life. I wish I didn’t but I also know they are just part of my journey and show that I have lived.

    Mollyxxx

  8. Well said Stella, it is much easier to bare one’s body rather than one’s soul. We fear our dark hidden places will cause shock and fear in others when in truth we all have them.

    I admire anyone who can show their scars with pride. I hide mine because I got them from being young and dumb.

    Well said post and thank you for sharing hun.

  9. Well said on the emotional baggage, I am one with you on that!!

    And I am proud of my scars… they show I’ve lived! 🙂

    ~Kazi xxx

  10. Lovely post.

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